Anonymous said: how do you deal with having to see someone you can't stand on a daily basis
Running away from your problems isn’t usually the best thing to do, but for whatever reason if you’re unable to approach that person, it may be best to ignore them. If it’s a family or classroom situation, avoidance or surrounding yourself with friends is possible. I had a person I had no wish to have any sort of contact with and was in my first class when I was in high school. I simply avoided this person, and over time it got easier. If you can talk to this person and they have done something to wrong you, you need to talk to this person about it. If you need friends, get them; there’s nothing to be ashamed of. If there is no way to talk to this person, minimize contact with them and live your life, without them. You can do it, friend. Eliminate toxic people from your environment, and you’ll do great.
My dad is always pushing me around and criticizing everyone. On Saturday night he blew up because my sister’s fan is missing its cord and she doesn’t know where it is. He said that she was lying and that everyone was always lying to him, which woke up both my mother and I. When I tried to ask what was going on and told him that I couldn’t be lying because I didn’t even know what was happening he told me that “they must’ve lowered the bar for GT” because I had somehow managed to qualify. He also pushed me onto the ground because I was standing between him and my sister. And then when I tried to move out of his way again he pushed me down and called me a fat cunt several times.
He knows I’m trying to lose weight. And with his beer gut and him never going to the doctor he doesn’t have much room to talk. Now he’s acting like nothing happened and when my mom confronted him and said that she won’t tolerate him treating me like that he said that I did it all the time so why shouldn’t he.
The only times I’ve ever been violent to him was when he either groped my mom or when he was attacking my sister.
I’m sick and tired of him blowing up like this and then acting like nothing happened. That and he acts like having a job excuses him from doing anything. While he’s sitting on his ass playing video games my mom is dealing with coordinating appointments for the whole family, making a menu, cooking and shopping, cleaning, laundry, and trying to deal with all the home repairs he’s ignored.
But she can’t divorce home because we’ll lose the house, the child support will only be $1000 a month for two teenagers (one of whom needs expensive bipolar medication), and we just wouldn’t be able to support ourselves.
At this point, I almost think it’d be worth it.
I’m very sorry that’s happening to you, anon. The best suggestion I can make is informing the authorities that he is being abusive towards you and your family. Tell your school counselor, tell a teacher, and you can also call the National Suicide Hotline (1-800-273-8255) and they can point you to different resources that may be in your area. If you have any friends or family members you can stay with for awhile, please do try to do so. I really hope everything goes okay, anon. I wish there was more I could help with. Please be safe and keep us posted.
- breath in for 4 seconds
- hold your breath for 7 seconds
- exhale breath for 8 seconds
repeat once or twice more.
This causes an autonomic nervous system shift from a sympathetic (fight or flight reaction) state to a parasympathetic response.
Use this for panic/anxiety attacks, exams, presentations.
I needed this right now
I want to add that this actually helps as a part of sleep preparation. You can feel your heartbeat slow down